OK, January has now come and gone and after meeting with our Worker a decision has been made. It's not the one we wanted to make but I think we both feel it IS the right decision. The boys' birth relative has now been accepted as a potential match for them and is undergoing formal assessment. We let our Worker know that we would like to wait until we know that we definitely wouldn't get the boys, however she pointed out that while she admired our resolve, she couldn't say whether we would have an answer in 6 months or even six years!! We discussed this at length and decided that we should now let those boys go and look at other potential matches for us. A really difficult decision but probably made easier by the length of time we have had to wait since September. I think subconsciously we were already withdrawing from the boys and no longer referring to the rooms as their bedrooms, etc.
So, back to the drawing board. Our worker has identified 2 (single) little boys who may be suitable for us, obviously we wouldn't be able to proceed with both, only one. She has spoken with one of the boy's Workers and she (the boy's Worker) seems to be quite positive about a potential match at this early stage. Only blot on the landscape is that there is already a family who are being assessed for suitability for this child (obviously nothing is ever straightforward for us!!) but it has been suggested that they are unlikely to be accepted at matching panel. Again, we wait...
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